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In the beginning of most relationships, we go through a “honeymoon” phase. This is when we want to be around our partner often, and we have long conversations about everything in our lives. However, as we get to know our partner longer and become comfortable, we tend to forget to spend quality time together.
I always encourage my couples to schedule date nights with their partners. They need to put it on their calendars so it is real and concrete. If they only talk about it, they tend to forget about the date nights. One date night per week is ideal but if it is not doable, every other week or once a month is okay. However, I do not recommend longer than that because it would tend to be forgotten or placed on the back burner.
During these date nights, both partners are too give each other their full attention. It means not being on your phone looking at sports scores, checking social media, etc. It is okay to leave your phone on in case of an emergency though.
I would recommend spending at least an hour on these dates. This is a time for couples to reconnect and to continue to get to know each other as they grow and change. You don’t want to be that couple that is married for 20 years and realize that you no longer know who your partner is.
These dates do not have to be expensive or extravagant. It could be as simple as going on an hour walk together. You and your partner will have to sit down and pick a day of the week to go on the date then plan what you two will be doing on those dates.
Examples of Date Nights:
1. Going on an 1-hour walk
2. Going out for dinner
3. Going out for ice cream
4. Going ice skating
5. Cooking dinner together
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